Resolutions Worth Considering

I have long pondered over what I was going to say to commence the new year.  I wanted it to be something uplifting and inspiring, but I was at a loss for words.  I will start this by saying that I hope that you brought the new year in with high spirits and great intentions.  The year 2014 is no longer, but has equipped up to tackle all that 2015 has to offer.  Have you made any resolutions for the new year?  If you're still debating on who and what you're getting rid of this year, take a moment to see what I have resolved to do:

Be unapologetically me. 

Have you ever had a watered down beverage?  The ice that was intended to keep it fresh has melted and the drink has lost its flavor and distinct taste.  I do not want to be a watered down version of myself.  I want to always be who I am when no one is looking, when no one is listening, and no one has any opinions.  In 2014, I watered myself down to make others comfortable, and kept quiet on things that I should have been vocal about.  So I resolve to speak up and speak out, and to always be me, despite how that makes others feel.

Live life away from social media.  

You're out to eat and you take a group picture, a picture of your food, and several selfies until you find one that makes the cut, all to put them in a photo collage and upload it to various social media outlets with a cliché caption (usually a deep quote or lyric to a popular song).  Whew! I'm tired just writing that long sentence!  One thing I realized in 2014 is that just because you do not post something on social media, it doesn't mean that it did not happen.  We want someone to be a witness to our life, and social media is a great place to gain those witnesses.  Sometimes when I cook, I want to take a picture of the process and blog about it, and it doesn't happen that way because I'm just hungry and could care less about how it looks on the plate. I just want to enjoy myself and not worry about capturing every moment to share with the world, or whoever is tuned in.

Keep my word.  

I have had a hard time doing what I said I was going to do, lately.  I'll tell someone that I want to go somewhere or do something, but when the time arrives I've changed my mind.  I have found solace in being a homebody, but I have to get out of my comfort zone at times and not disappoint people.  The reason that this happens most often to me is because when the occasion arises, the momentum that I had when I agreed to it is not the same.  This is a daily battle for me, especially keeping my word to myself to stay in good health and go to the gym and eat right!  It's like the saying goes, if it's something you want you'll make time for it, if not you'll make an excuse.  I'm tired of excuses, it's time to execute!

Remember 'no" is a complete sentence... 

...and that I don't have to explain myself when I say it. This kinda ties into resolving to keep my word.  I agree to things to appease others, despite how it affects me.  I have to remember that I cannot be everything to everyone else, and leave the scraps for myself.

I hope that my resolutions have encouraged a change in you.  Of course there is no switch to flip that will automatically turn me into a person that possesses all that I have detailed above.  True and lasting change takes time, but I will not let the year go by without actually trying.  No matter what your resolution is, give it a chance beyond the first week or first month of 2015.  If you plant a seed in the ground, it's not going to blossom into a beautiful rose bush if you do not tend to it and water it.  What you neglect won't grow.  So nourish all of your dreams and visions with effort and consistency, and they'll begin to flourish before your eyes in 2015.



Antoinette Jackson